Life Update

Hi All,

I know it has been a while since I last did a post but I promise I have a very good reason.

In late July my husband was admitted to hospital with what they thought was an abscess in his upper thigh.  Following a short stay and surgery to drain it, at which biopsies were taken, he was discharged from hospital.  A week later, he was readmitted as it appeared that the abscess had filled again.

This time dermatology were brought on board and a different diagnosis was discussed.  Just when we thought we were getting somewhere, another department was brought on board, Haematology.  As I lost my mum to Leukaemia, the Haematology Department were people I was quite familiar with and alarm bells started to go off in my head.

My worst fears were confirmed whenever my husband was given a diagnosis of Cancer (Aniplastic Large Cell Lymphoma).  Whenever you hear the words Cancer the next thing you want to hear is Stage 1 and early.

I was devastated with the news and so frightened that I was going to loose him that my sister had to come stay with me (I really don’t know how I would have coped without her).  She had to continually drum into my head that he was going to be okay and even now I am still so worried.

A week after his diagnosis, he had his first Chemotherapy in the hospital and two days later I got him home.  It was a very emotional time for us both.  I can honestly say that I can count on one hand the times we have been apart in our 19 years of marriage, so simple things like being able to say goodnight face to face rather than by text were wonderful.

He has been exceptionally lucky with the Chemo, other than the inevitable hair loss, he has escaped the side effects rightly.  A grumbly tummy and a little fatigue are the height of his symptoms.  In fact because he has been tolerating the Chemo so well, he has been able to have the cycles every 2 weeks instead of the usual 3 weekly.

This coming Thursday is the final in his planned 6 cycles and depending on whether or not he has to have Radiotherapy, 6 weeks after that he will have a scan to determine whether or not the Chemo has been successful.

Today is our wedding anniversary and I hope to have many, many more with him.

I promise I’ll keep you posted once I have more news.



Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

  1. Marilyn Lanning says:

    Darcie, as an 18 year cancer survivor, you have my prayers. I can imagine your feelings and that of your husband. The worst part of the whole thing was losing my hair. I can’t imagine any woman wanting to lose their hair. When my daughters burst into the bathroom wanting to know who I was screaming at. I realized how silly I was acting and they probably went to school and told their friends about their idiot mother. I thank the Lord for helping me deal with my scare and know that all the prayers in the world do help, sometimes in the most unusual ways! That’s another story to share with the world at a later date…Until later, M L

    1. Darcie Rian says:

      Hi Marilyn,

      Thank you for sharing. It’s wonderful to hear from a cancer survivor and one who has been 18 years in remission. It must have been so difficult for you to go through especially with having children at home. There is a certain amount you want to hide from them but no matter how hard you try, sometimes it’s impossible. My sister’s oldest son whenever he found me crying would suddenly appear with a tissue for me, he is such a sweetheart.

      My husband has a very positive outlook on things. As far as he is concerned, he is going to beat it and they say that is half the battle. I have found his hair loss harder than he has in fact, he is really enjoying skipping that part of his morning routine. On more than one occasion I have walked by him in a shop because I haven’t recognised him. I’m used to him having a big thick mop of black hair (going slightly grey at the temples now). He is a practical joker, a few times now, he has gone into the bathroom and let out a shriek. I’ll get in a panic and ask him what’s wrong, thinking that one of the long list of chemo side effects has presented itself. He will of course answer, someone’s stole my hair.

      Today all being well is his last chemo. We are hoping for one of the more experienced nurse’s as my poor husband has now developed a bit of a phobia for needles, especially Kanile’s. We have noticed that the more experienced nurses can get the tricky little bugger in first time.

      Thank you again for sharing.

      Darcie x

  2. Carol Chase says:

    Hi Darcie , praying for you guys. So sorry that you and your husband are going through this. Glad you have family to support you guys. Hope everything gets better soon. Take care hugs
    Carol Chase.

    1. Darcie Rian says:

      Thank you Carole for your support and kind words. Chemo is finished, so now we have to wait 6 weeks before they can do the scan to see if he’s in remission. Fingers crossed, we will get good news for Christmas.


  3. Carole says:

    Hope you get the good news you’re hoping for very soon. You’re in my thoughts.
    Carole xx

Powered by Wordpress, Redesign Theme by Tioreo